Making sense of loss

MJ and I have friends who recently had twin boys at 24 weeks old and one of them didn't make it. This is such a devastating blow it is hard to make sense of it and somewhere, somehow try to see God's hand in this. I have recently been finding myself feeling guilty and thinking why me/us. How did we get so lucky and does this mean the proverbial shoe will drop for us later in life? Are we all destined to have a certain amount of pain and suffering? And if God only gives us what we can handle, how does He believe anyone could handle the loss of their child. There are so many emotions and I just need to remind myself that sometimes it just doesn't make sense. All we can do is support each other the best way we know how, love each other through the good and the bad and hug our children each day and night and make sure they know we love them. Off to hug mine!